Wednesday, October 3, 2018

A Writer's Convoluted Path

Thought for the day:  You need a certain amount of nerve to be a writer. [Margaret Atwood]


If by nerve, Ms. Atwood means an undercurrent of masochistic tendencies, then I'd have to agree. Oops! Did I grumble-write that out loud? (ahem) Just kidding.

Hi-ya. As you can probably discern by that telltale badge, it's once again time for our monthly Insecure Writer's Support Group postings. This, the first Wednesday of the month, gives writers all over the world the opportunity to celebrate, complain, and commiserate about the joyful and not-so-joyful aspects of writing. Humble thanks and a jolly tip of the hat go to Alex Cavanaugh, our fearless ninja leader and the originator of this fine group. If you'd like to join (It's FREE!) or would like to read some of the other posts, please go HERE

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Okay, so maybe it's a slight exaggeration to suggest that writers have a masochistic bent, but I suspect very few writing careers resemble an idyllic ride in a snazzy red convertible through a picturesque countryside on a straightaway road devoid of traffic and stop signs. Just picture it: our imaginary sun-drenched writer, whistling a happy tune while zipping full speed ahead toward fame and fortune.

Yeah... no. That's not likely to happen, and for most writers, a tank might be more practical than a convertible, because a lot of stuff will be thrown at 'em as they struggle to reach the Promised Land of being... of feeling like... a Real Writer, and who wants to be stuck in a vehicle with the stench of rotten tomatoes and a bunch of icky gunk in their hair? Rejections, bad reviews, lack of sales, blah, blah, blah. Self-doubts can grow and spread like a cancer, making it difficult to see the road ahead clearly. (And the icky gunk dripping into their eyes doesn't help much, either...)

Nah. I don't think it's like a ride in either a convertible or a tank; it's more like a roller coaster. Sure, there are downs, and they can be pretty scary, but there are high points, too. Kinda like this:


Without meaning to, Charles Dickens described the writing life well: It was the best of times; it was the worst of times. 

And Ernest Hemingway said There is no rule on how to write. Sometimes it comes easily and perfectly; sometimes it's like drilling rock and then blasting it with charges. 

[It's rather comforting to know a master like Hemingway said writing isn't always a Sunday ride in a convertible, isn't it?]

No doubt, writers experience lots of ups and downs, but if you think about it, maybe that's a good thing. Consider an EKG: if there aren't any ups and downs, you're d-e-a-d, people, so maybe... just maybe... all of those ups and downs we experience are a natural part of living. Know what that means? During those desperate down times... those days when there are no sales at all and the words refuse to come... we must remember that there WILL be better days ahead. More ups to come. And ya know what? Those ups more than make up for the downs, even if we sometimes forget.

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Now then, how about a quick peek at this month's question:

How do major life events affect your writing? Has writing ever helped you through something?

Hmmm, good questions. First one: My very smart daughter tells me I'm an empath. I don't know if that's true or not, but I am very much affected by world events and the people around me. Negative emotions brought on by world events can make it very difficult for me to write or be creative in any way. Forcing myself to write during those times can result in some verrrrrrry dark writing, as those who read the early draft of my latest book could tell you. When my more positive nature takes the helm, the words flow much more freely, and there tends to be more humor in them.

As for the second question, a resounding yes. Recording my private thoughts during a sometimes difficult childhood helped me survive with a modicum of sanity... and I still have some of it left.

                                  Until next time, take care of yourselves and each other.


















61 comments:

  1. I haven't written much lately, the ideas are eluding me, except for the Words for Wednesday stories I manage to post on Fridays. I read over other things I've written, hoping for further inspiration for another chapter, but so far, zip, zero, nada. Still, inspiration can't elude me forever.

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    1. No, inspiration can't elude you forever. But be forewarned: it might tap you on the shoulder in the middle of the night and wake you from a sound sleep, so keep a notebook and pen handy!

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  2. I haven't been writing for long, so can't really answer the question. The last 15 years of my life have been relatively major-life-event free, for which I'm thankful.

    However, I can relate to the ups-and-downs picture. The thing that boosts me the most is hearing from people who've read my books and want to read more. There aren't many of them, but that just makes each one all the more precious :)

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    1. Lucky you! I don't think too many of us can claim to have enjoyed a fifteen years without major life events slowing us down in our tracks.

      Yes, yes, YES! I love that perspective. We may not have a LOT of readers, so that does, indeed, make each one we do have that much more precious.

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  3. Such a good post. You nailed it with the tank. I think that is the best vehicle to succeed at this crazy job with. Just roll along, right through the countryside, right through the roller coaster.

    You are a thoughtful, sensitive soul. I'll have to agree with your daughter.

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    1. I won't say anything out loud about wanting a tank, though, because I'm sure my hubby would be thrilled to buy one. Then again, it WOULD make it easier to find a parking place when I go to the grocery store... :)

      Thank you so much. That's a very sweet thing to say.

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  4. You retain some of your sanity? Bragger.
    I am pretty certain I have lost most of my marbles. I suspect Jazz has batted them under the furniture.
    As always, huge thanks to the writers (you included) you put in the hard yards and enrich my world.

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    1. I didn't say how MUCH of my sanity I retained. And besides, that's a purely subjective stance. Those who know me well might beg to differ. :)

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  5. Re. this month's question: "How do major life events affect your writing? Has writing ever helped you through something?" Writing saved my life at least once, for sure in 1970. Saved a friend's life 2 years later. I consider it a gardening technique to insure survival of life-forms under stress. Our garden still circles the sun. So yes.

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    1. I don't think it's an exaggeration to say that writing has saved many lives. Reading, too. If we can't pull the right therapeutic words out of own souls, very often we can find solace by finding our feelings reflected in someone's else's words. And yes, may our gardens continue to circle the sun for many more years... especially yours, dude. The world doesn't have nearly enough gardeners.

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  6. Writing down thoughts, and seeing them grow to words and sentences and even pages, can be very therapeutic, but it's definitely not always easy. Just keep going....Have a great day, hugs, Valerie

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    1. Nope, it isn't always easy, but I suppose nothing worthwhile ever is. :)

      You have a great day, too. Hugs back atcha.

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  7. Me writing all the time … bout things and peeps and stuff … and cat Theo … and mumme she wolf … and the family .. and the love of my life … Most of my writings end up in the storage boxes under my bed never to be seen again … Wishin u a happy autumn, friend Sue … We had snow … Want some ? Much love, cat.

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    1. Me glad you're always writing, and even happier that you share some of it with us on your blog. Dear cat, your writing should be SEEN. ("Hide it under a bushel...NO! I'm gonna let it shine!")

      Happy autumn to you, too. Snow? Um, thanks for the offer, but I'll pass. I'd like some cooler weather, though. We're heading back into the nineties.

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  8. Great post :-) Love the humour you brought to the subject. Happy IWSG day!

    Ronel visiting on Insecure Writer's Support Group day: Course Correction

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  9. Those ups and downs are part of life. I think they call that experience and life lessons.
    I'd like that clear road for driving, but for now, give me the tank.

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    1. I'd prefer the snazzy red convertible and the open road, too, but the tank would be a lot safer in Atlanta's traffic.

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  10. Right now I'm riding that writing roller coaster, holding on for dear life, eyes squeezed shut, but I know those twists and lows will pass soon enough. :)

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  11. The ups and downs of life are like a roller coaster and most of the time I just try to hang on and enjoy the ride !

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    1. That's not all you do. You sit in the front car with a big smile on your face!

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  12. That graphic nailed the writing process :-) So many highs and lows, but that's life. Just need to remind myself of that at times.

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    1. Yeah, I think we ALL need to remind ourselves of that from time to time. We have to embrace the highs, so we can remember them during the lows.

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  13. Explosive Beginnings was very dark, though very well written. Thanks for sharing this excellent, funny meditation on the ups and downs of writing.

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    1. Thank you. I promise: book two isn't nearly as dark. :)

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  14. Journaling saved me too. Some days I wonder how many non writers could survive the writers journey, because, whew! It is not for the faint of heart. =)

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    1. No, writing isn't for the faint of heart, but it's a lot safer than jumping off a cliff. :)

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  15. World events have never had any influence whatsoever with my writing - but personal "events" have always influenced me deeply and profoundly. My emotions have a habit of getting in my way.

    Writing is definitely a catharsis for me. Music and writing have (many times) saved my life and/or sanity.
    Of course, every now and then I abandon "artistic" endeavors in favor of cursing and throwing things. It's the curse of being Hungarian.

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    1. It's good that world events don't influence you as much as personal stuff does. The trouble with me is I internalize world events, so those things feel personal, too.

      Hey! Sometimes, cursing is the only thing that lets the steam out, so I get it. (And I'm not even Hungarian!)

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  16. Hi Susan - I now have Hot Flashes and Cold Lemonade to cheer me through ... and lots of blogging posts to read and cheer me through. I thought life had thrown me enough wobblies in the last few years - but no ... more still around. The Positive must remain - thank goodness for having a blog and the connectivity of people .. love it - cheers Hilary

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    1. Hi-ya, Hilary. I hope Hot Flashes makes you laugh a bit. (Sorry if it also makes you cry...) I'm sorry to hear life isn't done messing with you yet, but I'm sending lots of positive thoughts your way.

      Cheers back atcha.

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  17. Sure had some humor in there, although it did get a bit dark indeed. But works for our feed.

    World events we just pffft at most times, ratings is all many of the blabberbutts want. I don't think I'll be getting that tank any time soon. But filling a gas tank works.

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    1. Thanks. I'm glad you could find the humor in the darkness. :)

      No tank? Might be a real plus during your snowy season...

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  18. Definitely a roller coaster! Real life has a way of influencing everything. Happy October!

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  19. Negativity gets us nowhere, but I admit, it is hard to stay positive in these times. I often go on long walks to shake the nasties out of me and it usually works. I often come back with a more optimistic attitude. I do a lot of thinking on those walks and talking to myself gets rid of those cobwebs in my mind. I love having conversations with someone who agrees with me.

    Stay up, Susan, your good and fun spirit is needed on Blogger.

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    1. Good advise. Maybe I need to take myself for some long walks, too. (As soon as the weather cools down a bit...)

      Yes, ma'am. I'll try. The same back atcha. We need your voice and spirit around here, too.

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  20. Writing is full of ups and downs, yes, and lots of sideways stuff thrown in there too! Writing is always an adventure and a learning experience for me too.

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    1. Yeah, there are sideways moves, too, aren't there? Maybe that's where I am now... kinda treading water without going anywhere. :)

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  21. humor as a shield. Hey, I understand....that's our modis operandi...Remember we are sitting on a bench together with the wind in our hair? Writing is a challenge. But we explore and discover something in the work. Keep going, my friend

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    1. Humor really is a nice shield, dontcha think? Taking everything too seriously isn't nearly as much fun.

      That bench and wind-blown hair scenario sounds pretty darned good, but let's wait until the temperatures chill a bit, shall we?

      You keep going, too, kiddo. Have a super weekend.

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  22. Writing has been a continual life saver! I should get my notebooks on prescription. But also the drive to be a writer has caused plenty of trouble... Would not change a thing of course :-)

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    1. I hope your drive to be a writer drives you to write another book. Wouldn't change a thing, eh? Good for you! If I were to change anything, perhaps I would've gotten serious about writing when I was a lot younger. :)

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  23. Writing definitely has its ups and downs. It would be nice if there were more ups than downs, though!

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    1. Ah, but if there were too many ups, we wouldn't appreciate them nearly as much. :)

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  24. Masochistic feels pretty accurate to me. I love writing from a killers POV, putting my characters through Hell, messing with perfect worlds. Sometimes, writing a disaster - then fixing it - can make this world less stressful. But, I can't always write through major life changes; I get stuck in reality.

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    1. You like to write from a killer's POV, put your poor defenseless characters through hell and mess up perfectly good worlds, eh? Um, I hate to say it, but that sounds a tad sadistic. HA!

      And then there's reality. (sigh) Unfortunately, it can be much more stressful than the stuff we create in our books. At least in our books, we're in control. (It's a wonder MORE people don't write!)

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  25. That's why I tend to ignore the news. I don't need it sending me into a worse funk.

    As for ups and downs, it's a good thing I love roller coasters.

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    1. I know what you mean. I've always been a news junkie, but it never used to turn my stomach.

      Yep, we're all stuck on a roller coaster, whether we like 'em or not!

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  26. I only began writing poetry after discovering the great Anne Sexton: Her early poems were all about finding a purpose in life after all life's illusions are broken and shattered beyond repair. Death begins to look more like a friend than a foe.

    She always claimed poetry saved her life. I know it saved mine. She went on to win a Pulitzer (not too shabby), and I've won a contest or two. But the best prize is staying alive.

    Another awesome post, Susan!

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    1. I'm truly glad poetry saved you, Dylan. When life shatters us, we have to find some meaning and purpose to survive. The will was within you all along. Poetry just helped you express it. The moral of the story? Keep writing!

      Have a wonderful weekend.

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  27. Whether a best-selling author, an essayist - even a blogger - I totally believe negativity stifles creativity.

    That's an amusing visual about the snazzy red convertible. Here, I was picturing a few best-sellers at the wheel who (IMHO) had no right to get their drivers license!

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    1. I think you're right. Negativity sucks all of the fun and creativity out of everything.

      HA! Yeah, I can think of a few best-selling authors who might fit that mold...

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  28. Atwood. Need I say more? That's why I love her. :-)

    Greetings from London.

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  29. I bought your book a while ago...and then I had to finish another book first. And then I'm a slow reader... But let me tell you, I finally started your book last week and have been enjoying every minute of it. You have no reason to be insecure! I guess it's normal to feel the ups and downs of life, but it's not showing in your book (that's a good sign).

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  30. Since the death of my hubby almost two years ago I have not done much creative writing. I do a little editing of a nonfiction children's book I am writing and that is it at present.

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    1. I don't blame you. Quite honestly, I don't know if I could function if anything happened to my husband. God bless you.

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